I decided a few weeks ago to reactivate my online dating profile. Why? I honestly don't know. I had
disabled it in the beginning of the year after a really pretty horrible and terrifying experience with someone who ended up being a con man. I just couldn't believe that a.) there were people that disingenuous and dishonest in the world and b.) that I fell for his crap. I knew that no matter whom I met online I wouldn't trust him, so what was the point in trying.
And I put all my time and energy into training. It felt good. I was always surrounded by great people and I always had a place to be. My calendar was full, so I didn't have to stop and think about the fact that as much as I love being alone, I really don't want to be alone forever.
So, I turned my profile back on. And I met the guy who was perfect, and then stayed all of 10 minutes at our date before leaving the juice bar to "talk to his friend" and then texting me some silly reason about why he wasn't coming back. There was the guy who postponed our date because of a family commitment, could never seemed to be able to reschedule, and then one night texted me to apologize that he was running late... for a date we didn't have. Wrong girl!
OR the other perfect guy, athlete, vegetarian, academic, detailed messages who when I attempted to schedule a meeting said I shouldn't waste his time because he had decided to not sell his home in Colorado. After some back and forth I still can't figure out what the two had to do with each other.
This doesn't even count the guys I chose not to respond to... the facepainted profile pictures, the shirtless attempts and getting lucky without even taking me for a drink.
At least these guys are providing me with lots of entertaining material for my facebook statuses and weeding themselves out. I appreciate the time savings.
It's less that two weeks until the race. I feel pretty good. My ankle hurt a bit after the 11 mile run on Sunday, and I had terrible PMS back pain during my bike ride on Saturday, but I feel like I can do this. So, my mind has started to think about next year and if I want to shoot for the real deal... the Ironman.
But then I worry if I decide to shoot for Ironman, what will that do to my already limited schedule? It's already difficult to schedule dates and meet people. I felt I needed to decided.. find a man or find Ironman?
And then, I chatted with my coach who said one of the simplest and most obvious things, but for some reason I hadn't though of it -- one of the ways I will know that my new special someone is right, is that he will not only tolerate whatever training schedule I decided on, but he will support and encourage me in my goals. So I am going to keep my profile up there, keep meeting people and just letting the world sort itself out.
I haven't yet decided on the Ironman track, but at least I have taken that silly OR question out of the decision making process. For now, I just need to get through today... oh and that little 70.3 that is sitting out there waiting for me on June 23.Labels: dating, ironman, training